Eat, Sleep, Poop: A Common Sense Guide to Your Baby's First Year - Softcover

Scott W. Cohen, MD, FAAP, is the cofounder of Beverly Hills Pediatrics and an attending physician and active member of the teaching staff of Cedars Sinai Medical Center, where he was awarded Pediatrician of the Year in 2006 and the Physician Recognition Award in Pediatrics in 2005 and 2008. He completed his pediatric training at the Childrens Hospital Los Angeles, where he was the recipient of the Victor E. Stork Award for continued excellence and future promise in the care of children. He was selected as one of the Best Doctors in America 2007-present. Dr. Cohen has developed a program called Common Sense Parenting, and educates patients and families on how to raise healthy children-stress free. He lives in Los Angeles with his wife and two daughters.
 

Eat, Sleep, Poop CHAPTER 1

PREPARE

Save the Date

The period before your first baby is born is one of the most exciting times in your life, but also one of the most anxiety-producing and nerve-racking. As anxious parents-to-be, we try to control a situation that is already out of our control, and we find it nearly impossible to focus on what is most important—looking forward to the baby’s arrival. In this chapter I’m going to help you focus by offering Common Sense Parenting advice on preparing for your baby’s arrival. Hopefully, you’ll then be able to cut down the anxiety and concentrate on the excitement.

Here’s what we’ll focus on:

· What to buy

· How to choose a pediatrician

· Cord blood banking

· What to bring to the hospital
Nesting—What to Buy

If you’re like most couples, as soon as you find out you’re having a baby, you are immediately inundated with advice. Everyone with kids tells you what you absolutely must buy for the first year. Unfortunately, most first-time parents have trouble cutting anything from the list of “must have” baby items, which is why many end up with a bedroom like my friends’.

I remember visiting them shortly after the birth of their first child. They took me on a tour of their new apartment, and when we walked into their bedroom, the three of us could barely squeeze in among all the baby paraphernalia. Along with their queen-sized bed, the room was cluttered with a crib, a co-sleeper, a sleep nest, and a bassinet, all of which they said they bought because everyone told them they absolutely had to have them. My friends worried that if they didn’t buy everything everyone had recommended, they wouldn’t be properly prepared and their child might suffer. As it turned out, their baby ended up sleeping in their bed with them for the first six months, leaving all of the baby contraptions unused. Now they look back and laugh. Like many other well-meaning first-time parents, my friends had allowed their anxiety to overwhelm them.

I have to admit: I was also one of those anxiety-ridden first-time dads who fell into the too-much-stuff trap. When my wife and I were preparing for the arrival of our child, it seemed like we were constantly buying new stuff for the baby. In every store we went to, the salesperson would tell us what we needed to buy and then point to a wall of infant items that appeared to reach to the sky. Even though many of the suggested articles seemed to perform the exact same function, we bought them anyway. Our baby’s room soon became the most expensive room in the house.

So how can you prevent the too-much-stuff scenario? The following is a list of Newborn Must-Haves. The purpose of this list is not to tell you what kind of crib or bottle to buy, but to make sure that you remember to buy one. These items are the Common Sense Parenting essentials; anything you choose to add to the list is up to you. In the resources section at the end of the book you’ll find a handy checklist that you can tear out or photocopy.
Newborn Must-Haves Checklist

Sleep

___ Crib

___ Crib mattress

___ Mattress pad cover

___ Fitted sheet

Crib: You are soon going to realize that all your baby does is eat, sleep, and poop. And of the three, the one you’ll yearn for the most is sleep. It goes without saying that your child needs a place to sleep, but there’s no need to give her more than one place to do that. Decide where you would like your infant to sleep, and go with your decision. You may decide that you want to put her crib in your room because it will be easier for you to get to her in the middle of the night when she needs to be fed. You may want her right next to you in a co-sleeper (a small, portable crib that sits next to your bed). Or you may choose to have her sleep in her own room in her own crib from the start. I do feel that routine and repetition are very important, so the sooner you start the routine, the better. Ultimately, if the goal is to have her sleep in her crib and in her own room, the transition will be easiest on both you and her if you start in that location.

Common Sense Bottom Line

Select an item for your baby to sleep in and go with it; she will not need three different places to sleep. The earlier she is in her own bed the better.

Mattress: I remember visiting a popular baby store when we were getting ready for our daughter. We were in the mattress aisle overwhelmed by the thirty mattresses leaning up against the wall ranging in price from eighty to eight hundred dollars. We called over a salesperson and asked, “Which mattress do you recommend?” He responded, “We tell our customers to ask their pediatrician.” My wife whimsically smacked me on the arm and we started to laugh. The salesperson asked, “What’s so funny?” and I said, “I’m a pediatrician, but I don’t remember a course in medical school entitled ‘Sealy versus Serta.’?”

We ended up basing our decision on common sense (no need to go overboard and buy the most expensive mattress) as well as my pediatric training (a firm mattress reduces the risk of SIDS).

Common Sense Bottom Line

Choose a crib mattress that is firm, as it will reduce the risk of SIDS. As for organic versus nonorganic . . . I’ll leave that up to you.

Travel

___ Car seat

___ Stroller

___ Diaper bag

Car seats: Imagine four grown adults hovering around a plastic car seat staring blankly like a bunch of cavemen confronting a television for the first time. I used to say that you had to be a rocket scientist to figure out how to install a car seat until one of my patients, who worked for NASA, threw in the towel. And just like asking for directions, any father would rather spend eight hours trying to install this simple device than ask for help.

When we went to buy our first car seat, the car we drove to the store wasn’t the car we’d be installing the car seat in. So the staff couldn’t help us with the installation. No problem, I thought. I’ll just watch as the store manager gives me a quick demonstration and then I’ll do it when I get home. After the half-hour demo, I was well-schooled in all the possible ins and outs, dos and don’ts of proper car seat installation. I felt like a pro. I got home, unpacked the box, and went to work. An hour later, after unproductively fiddling around with the thing, I was drenched in sweat. I pulled out the directions and tried to follow them. No luck. I called in the expert: my wife. She reread the instructions and relayed directions to me to no avail. I called the store, and after trying out a couple of their helpful tips, I got in the car, drove back to the store, and had the store manager install the car seat for me. Note to self: when you buy a car seat, drive to the store in the car into which you’ll install the car seat.

Common Sense Bottom Line

Unless one or both of you is an engineer or car mechanic, go to a car seat installation center at your local police station, fire department, car dealership, or baby supply store and have a pro do it. Then drive home with a smile on your face knowing your child will be sitting safely in a properly installed car seat.

Diaper bag: In the diaper bag make sure to have diapers, wipes, diaper cream, plastic bags for dirty diapers, a changing pad, and a change of clothes. I also recommend that you keep a little bin full of the same supplies on every floor or in every major room of your house so that you can quickly tend to a dirty diaper.

Clothing

___ Onesies/sleepers

___ Swaddling blanket

Clothing: You are going to buy and receive lots of “cute” outfits for your newborn. These are more for you than for your baby. My daughter had a bigger wardrobe before she was born than I’ve ever had in my life. She had so many dresses with layers of lace I remember asking my wife how many balls she was planning to attend in the first year of her life. Remember, you are going to be hungry and sleep deprived, and all you’ll want to do is change that diaper and go back to sleep. Going through layers of clothing will not help your stress level, so keep it simple.

Common Sense Bottom Line

I recommend investing in lots of onesies. My daughter wore them almost exclusively for the first four months. These all-in-one garments are inexpensive, easy to wash, save time for you, are comfortable for your baby . . . and cute!

Changing

___ Changing table with a pad/soft rug or mat

___ Diapers

___ Gauze/baby wipes

___ Diaper cream

Diapers: You are going to go through so many diapers that you may start having dreams about them. Disposable diapers are inexpensive and simple to use. I recommend buying them in bulk. Some infants go through ten to twelve diapers per day. If you want to go green, you can choose cloth diapers. Keep in mind, however, that while you won’t be filling up a landfill with disposable diapers, the overall effect on the environment may be no different if you take into account how much water is involved in washing reusable diapers. The new cloth diapers come with waterproof diaper covers that clip or Velcro close for quick, easy use.

Diaper wipes: While some hospitals recommend using small square gauze pads and water as diaper wipes, I think this is a challenging test for new parents. Try and scrape off tarry newborn poop with a tiny gauze pad! I have seen parents use a whole stack for one diaper change. Yes, your child’s skin is sensitive; and yes, we do want to decrease the risk of an allergic reaction. But baby wipes are safe and very effective. Choose a wipe that doesn’t have a lot of extra additives or fragrances, as this will decrease the risk of irritating your newborn’s skin.

Diaper creams: These are used to treat or prevent diaper rash, which every baby will get at some point—even if you are the parent of the year and change every diaper immediately. Diaper creams create a barrier to protect the irritated skin from being re-irritated by the baby’s poop and pee, thus allowing the skin to heal. The thicker the cream the better. I recommend using it when you notice a rash rather than as a preventative measure. Why put it on if it’s not necessary?

Note: Doctors no longer recommend using talc powders because they can be dangerous for babies to inhale.

Bath/Hygiene

___ Infant bathing basin

___ Sponge/washcloth

___ Baby soap and moisturizer

___ Nail file/clippers

Bathing basin: It is very difficult to hold a newborn in a sitting position while you bathe her, especially when she doesn’t yet have good head and neck control. I recommend a bathing basin in which your child can lie down. This type of basin has a sling that goes over it like a tight hammock, so the baby lies in the sling and the water seeps through into the basin. This is helpful because your child is not sitting directly in the water, which reduces the risk of drowning.

Baby lotions: Just like baby wipes, baby lotions, shampoos, and soaps are safe. Parents have been using them for decades. You do not have to use them if you do not want to, but they smell good and are safe. Deciding whether to use organic or nonorganic products is a matter of personal preference. In the end, my wife and I used what our parents used on us as babies—good ol’ Johnson and Johnson.

Nail files: It seems every newborn has nails like Freddy Krueger, and you’ll be surprised at how often they scratch themselves. (Fortunately, a child’s facial scratches will heal without scarring, so no need to worry.) Nail files tend to work better than clippers because you don’t have to worry about clipping your child’s cuticle, which can be painful and bleed. If you do nick her by accident, just place a little Neosporin on the cut and it should heal fine. Some nails even peel off. I recommend nail care while your child is sleeping. A moving target is always more difficult.

Medications

___ Infant and children’s acetaminophen (Tylenol)

___ Children’s diphenhydramine (Benadryl)

___ Electrolyte replacement fluid (Pedialyte)

___ Antigas/colic remedies (Mylicon, Gripe water, Hyland’s Colic Tabs)

___ Sunscreen

___ Insect repellant

Medications: I recommend stocking up on essential medications. This will save you a trip in the middle of the night when your child is sick and needs them. I have included a dosing sheet (see page 266) for your convenience, but you should consult with your doctor before using any medication. Some of these medications have a shelf life of up to one year, but check their expiration date prior to using.

· Infant Tylenol Concentrated Drops (generic: acetaminophen) will be helpful if your child has a fever or is in pain.

· Children’s Benadryl (generic: diphenhydramine) is helpful for allergic reactions.

· An electrolyte replacement fluid such as Pedialyte can be used to rehydrate after a vomiting or diarrheal illness.

· Colic and gas remedies are not medically proven but are safe and may be helpful. Half of my patients say they are great, while the other half find them useless. Mylicon drops are like Gas-X for babies. Gripe water and Hyland’s Colic Tabs are homeopathic mixtures that may be soothing to your child’s stomach. Chamomile tea is also a good remedy to try. These remedies can be found at most supermarkets or drugstores and come with a dropper. You can give these to your child several times a day. Follow the package directions for dosing frequency.

Sunscreen lotion: This can be used before six months of age, but it is best to keep your infant out of direct sunlight for the first couple of months. If you do go out in the sun, use a sunscreen with an SPF of at least 30 (most children’s sunscreen lotions have at least SPF 50), and apply early and often.

Common Sense Bottom Line

Stock your medicine chest with medications for common baby ailments so you’ll have them available before you need them.

Accessories

___ Digital thermometer (rectal and axillary/underarm)

___ Pacifier

___ Bulb syringe

___ Saline nasal spray

___ Gum/tooth cleansers

___ Hand sanitizer

Thermometers: Do not buy an expensive, fancy thermometer. (If you get one as a gift, return it for a nice credit at the store.) Ear and temporal artery thermometers are expensive but inaccurate. Invest in an inexpensive digital rectal thermometer. These thermometers are accurate and easy to use, and display results in eight to twenty seconds. The accuracy of the thermometer is very important. This is because the difference between 100.3 and 100.4 degrees Fahrenheit in a child under two months of age may be the difference between seeing your doctor in the office or going immediately to the hospital for a battery of unpleasant tests. With infants under two months old, always use a rectal thermometer, as they are the most accurate. Once your child is over two months of age, you can use an axillary (underarm) thermometer. Oral thermometers can be used when your child is five years old.

Pacifiers: I am often asked whether or not to give a baby a pacifier, and, if so, what type. In general, I feel if you can find a way to soothe your child without one, a pacifier is one less thing you’ll have to wean them off of in t...